Bringing your loved one home

Families have cared for their loved ones at home for generations. Being able to spend this time together can make the death process feel more natural, family-centred, and often deeply comforting. It also gives many people a sense of quiet closure.

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Caring for your person at home

Here are a few helpful things to know if your loved one will be at home for a few days:

Keeping Them Cool

If they are not embalmed, the most important thing is maintaining a cool temperature. You can do this by:

  • Using a refrigerated cool mat. 
  • Placing ice packs around them and changing these a couple of times a day (more often in warmer weather).
  • Keeping the room itself as cool as possible.

Normal Changes You May Notice

It is completely normal for you to notice changes in the body. But there are things you can do to help…

  • Colour to gradually change. You’re welcome to apply make-up if you’d like.
  • Skin to look a little dehydrated – you can gently moisturise their face, hands, feet, lips, and so on.
  • Odour to change slightly lavender, essential oils, light perfumes, or scented candles can help keep the room pleasant.

If you’re not in the room, it’s a good idea to cover them with a light fabric to protect against insects or flies.

It is absolutely fine to touch their face, hold their hands, brush their hair, or apply make-up. You may also want to play music, light candles, or create a peaceful atmosphere in whatever way feels right for your family.

Costs involved

Please see our financial page for further information.

We’re Here for You

If you’re ever unsure about anything, please don’t hesitate to talk with your funeral director. We will be able to give you all the guidance and assurance you need and guide you through each step.

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Auckland 1061

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